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Why Can't We forgive ourselVES?

8/20/2019

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It is impossible to lead a perfect life. But it is never too late to lead an excellent one.

I remember hitching a ride with a friend and he accidentally bumped his car against a post. As he drove on, this time with a pronounced bump on his fender, he muttered “I’m so ashamed of myself.”

Why are some people quick to forgive others but they just can’t forgive themselves? The root cause is that we are clinging to an idealized image of ourselves. In the case of my friend, he wanted to be a flawless driver, with nary a scratch on the paint job. When his car “kissed” that post, it wasn’t just the fender which suffered a dent that day.

Are you still wincing over a bum decision you made ages ago? 

Perhaps the perfectionist image you are harboring (and you may not even know it) is one where you are so smart that you will always make the right choices. Then when the opposite happened, that image taunts you “How can you be so stupid? You should have known better!”

And you, poor you, moan “Yeah, yeah! Guilty!”

So what’s the solution? Loosen up on that perfectionism. Instead, pursue excellence. 

Let us admit that we will inevitably do something that we will later wish we didn’t. Then, armed with lessons from the past, we will make wiser decisions and do more of the right deeds. 
It is impossible to lead a perfect life. But it is never too late to lead an excellent one.

In fact, it is never too late for a friend to become a careful yet happy driver.

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